1. He Only Texts You
Can I just start this off with a short rant on my love/hate relationship with texting? Yes...great, because, here it goes. I love texting and I friggin' hate it so much. Mostly I hate to for the same reasons why I love it! Argh...I am just a mix of emotions on this topic. Texting is great for those of us who don't want to spend hours on the phone, but here's the thing, I don't want to spend hours on the phone, I want to spend hours interacting with you, face-to-face! Texting is very impersonal and there's this new era of young whipper snappers (i.e. the 25 and under crowd), who are really satisfied with a goodnight or good morning text and feel as though that means he, "really likes me." Ummm...whatever happened to actual voice conversations, and preferably the ones that take place among each others actual company.
Texting is easy. Texting is non-committal. Texting is the step-sibling to actual time and commitment. I kid you not, I met a guy one year ago, and he has been texting me ever since. We have not seen each other or spoken on the telephone. A year people! I in no way take him seriously, and you shouldn't either. Yes, texting is fun and who doesn't love a great back-and-forth, but actual time spent together is an investment in your foreseeable future. Good morning texts and goodnight ones for that matter, do feel really good, but not when it's never been backed up with anything more than just that. If he is only texting you, then he has absolutely no intentions of investing actual time in you. Let it go.
2. He Never Gives You Details About His Life
Let's re-visit one of my examples from number one, and refer back to the guy who has been texting me for over one year now. I once asked him what he did for a living and his verbatim response was, "Live life!" as though he was utterly offended that I would have the audacity to ask him a question about himself. That...that right there is what I'm talking about. If you don't know small or large details about his life, it's because he doesn't need you to know. Why would he not need you to know? Because you don't matter enough to share his life. You are not part of his future plans, so why would he take the time to let you really get to know him better?
Where does he live, are his parents still together, what are his plans for the next five years of his life, can you name his friends and have you spent time with them? I mean really, if he won't answer even basic questions, or better yet freely tell you about himself, it's because he has no plans of making you a permanent fixture in his life. Let it go.